Comments on: Credo http://blog.middlesexmd.com SEXUALITY FOR LIFE. Info, advice and products for women over 40. Sun, 12 May 2013 02:38:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Eleanor http://blog.middlesexmd.com/credo/#comment-901 Tue, 20 Mar 2012 14:18:40 +0000 #comment-901 BabeE7,

Thank you for this blog area.
It’s true both of us are changing, me and night sweats and him and the back pain/ changes. We have to relearn our bodies. Sex in the past and sex now is totally different. I find it can be great but we must constantly think of ways to rekindle our desire and relaxation time so we are not interrupted by our own thoughts. Will it be good…am I ready? is the erection going to last? We’ve got to learn how to get comfortable again at age 50 and understand how to talk about things we didn’t talk about at age 20 during our intimate love making.

]]> By: Crony http://blog.middlesexmd.com/credo/#comment-27 Wed, 13 Jan 2010 23:52:19 +0000 #comment-27 Thanks, Sooner! Both for the affirmation and the tip about the Rosemary post.

]]> By: Sooner (or later) http://blog.middlesexmd.com/credo/#comment-25 Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:56:58 +0000 #comment-25 Crony,
You should check out the Rosemary post today – relates to your idea above — the connectedness is so important to enjoying the second half of our life. And we have changed since we first got together (for those of us that have been together for a long time.)
Sooner

]]> By: Crony http://blog.middlesexmd.com/credo/#comment-24 Tue, 12 Jan 2010 18:45:31 +0000 #comment-24 Regarding how what our minds need that might be different: Menopause isn’t the only change that hits us at this age. Our husbands are going through their own mid-life crises and changes. One of both partners may be working harder than ever. Our kids are leaving the nest. There may be “sandwich generation” dynamics. Etc. In addition to adapting to our physical changes, our entire interaction with our partners may be so different from the one we had in our earlier years that it is unrecognizable. Before sexual intimacy can fully bloom, there may be a need to reconnect, or to connect in entirely new ways. If a couple used to dance ’til dawn or go rock climbing together in their youth, that may not be realistic in mid-life, so some other shared experience might be needed. You might consider having an area on the blog for “reconnecting ideas”: DVD/movies which could spur a good talk, “date night” ideas, little gestures which have big impact, etc. This is pre-arousal, pre-seduction stuff. Low cost, low emotional risk ideas that break the routine. I know I could use some ideas. Good luck with this venture!

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